I'm Not Lazy, I'm Just Tired.

( I thought this pic was appropriate since y'all say I'm always on my phone anyway lmao. Photo Cred: The Princess Jennifer)

Today was the only day 'off' I've had in weeks and I'm tired boss.

I know I need to rest. But I can't help but to feel guilty for not working right now. The real problem is the grind 24/7 mindset that I've become accustomed to has lead to this self care guilt I have.

Sleep. Rest. Chill. Me Time. 

Like seriously, how do you guys do it? As a woman self care is one of the most important ways to keep going, but for some reason I can't. I feel like if I'm not always writing and reading an email I'm not working hard enough. If I'm not drafting a proposal several times x day or week I'm not grinding hard enough. If I sleep I'm missing out.

You can't let financial gains be the only measurement of success. 

I feel lazy. Despite averaging 10-12 hour work days every day. I feel like Kanye when he was doing 5 beats a day for 3 summers. Complete grind mode. I think unshakable feeling that when I do anything not related to work I'm being lazy, distracted, aloof, all that. I won't lie, these dishes pile up, my clothes go unfolded for weeks, and I grab laundry for the day straight out the dryer. Looking at these chores that are normal parts of adulting like "yea, thats gonna be a NO for me dawg" and push it off for another day. I feel lazy.

I'm not lazy. I'm just tired. 

I took the WHOLE day off yesterday and literally forced myself to put any work thoughts out of my head and just had me time. Me time can be stressful though. When I finally have time to decompress sometimes I'm reminded of all the things I haven't done instead of all the things I have done. I'm slowly learning to recognize and appreciate the small wins.

Smalls wins add up to big victories. 

So this week, I'm going to try to embrace this me time, chill time, do what makes me happy time. Do y'all well adjusted individuals have any advice on easy ways to adult :)!

(Song of the moment: The Pressure, Jhene Aiko)



Stay hungry my friends...

Young Ray

Things get easier.

(Photo Cred: Josh Kelly)

Things get easier.

My friend Emerald told me to write down my burdens in an envelope, seal it, and let that be the last I think about it. Now my frugality kicked in and I was like "umm I'm not wasting any envelopes" then she hit me with "not a real one, one in my mind". I honestly thought I wasn't strong enough to do that, like mentally throw an emotion or worry away? Nah. I can't do that. Cannot. Can. Not.

Bishhhhhh please.... 

Welcome Back! A Blog Post To Myself...

(Photo Cred: Briana Janelle)

I don't even know where to start y'all.

I needed a break.

From this blog, from people, from things.

This is the most nondescript blog post I'll likely ever make because that's where my life was for so long. I stopped blogging not because I don't enjoy it but because it became a chore, a job, not my outlet. When I first starting blogging it was all about the food, but these Hungry Girls transformed into the Hungry Homies.

But I personally was hungry for more back then, I just didn't know what I wanted. I knew I had a voice, a story, a mission, but again I didn't know where to find it. So I took a break. I can't lie this break took FARRRRR longer than I ever expected, but such is life.

FLASH RECIPE: Easy Shrimp and Grits

This week I woke up feeling like shrimp and grits for breffis (breakfast, lol)! It's super easy to make but like most people everything comes down to having time to prepare it. Another obstacle I typically face is not having all the ingredients that I need, this particular morning ya girl had everything!

Brunch So Hard!

My bestie, Reschelle and I had the opportunity to host Brunch So Hard with Seasons52 a few weeks ago. I truly apologize for the delay in posting. You know how life gets... 

The brunch was awesome, we got to try out all their new brunch menu items. I'm going to be honest  with you... there were a few dishes that completely blew me out of the water. 

 Brick Oven Brioche French Toast